Who Keeps the Kids?

Kids, especially young ones, present a challenge for polyamorous parents. Who keeps the baby while the other partner goes on a date? What if one partner takes on a new lover, and wants to be gone often because they're in the throws of limerance? The other partner is stuck at home, babysitting. Sometimes, this can be frustrating, especially if the other partner begins to feel like they *can't* date other people because they have to be at home with the child(ren). It is especially frustrating if the mother of the child is breastfeeding the child, because she might already feel like she can't really have a break.

Sometimes new parents who are poly feel like they fail at polyamory during their first year or so with their new baby.